There’s no doubt that being a mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And being a single mom has made life challenging, but I am confident that I’m a better person and mother because of it. I can’t tell you how many times someone says to me, “I don’t know how you do it!”. In my heart I know they mean well, but deep inside I am rolling my eyes. I know, not the best response. Let’s be honest, whatever your circumstances you learn how to make the best of it because complaining doesn’t help. Sure I’d love to have a husband (do you hear me God?!) but it’s not in the cards right now. So I do what everyone else does, I take each day as it comes and do my best.
So if you know a single mom here are some simple and welcomed things you can say to encourage her in her journey. It’ll mean more than you know.
What was the best part of your day?
I pose this question to my son every day when he comes home from school and love hearing his answers. It wasn’t until he started posing the question back to me that I realized how good it felt to have someone ask me how my day was.
Would you like to go [anywhere that doesn’t have a kid’s menu]?
Don’t get me wrong. I love spending time with my son, but every now and then it’s nice to go to a restaurant or someplace where there are no children. Send her a link to a groupon for an activity that is for grownups and go have fun!
Can I babysit?
Secretly your single mom friend has been waiting for you to offer but is afraid to ask. Sometimes we just want a moment to stare at the wall and our regular babysitter is unavailable. If you have an hour or two to spare, give us a call!
Come over for dinner!
Yes! The answer will always be yes.
I’m at [grocery store or better yet, TARGET!] do you need anything?
I’m not going to give you my entire shopping list, but it means a lot that you were thinking of me.
Lets go for a walk.
One of the challenges of being a single parent is that usually everyone’s health comes before my own. Encourage the single mom in your life to make her health a priority by going on a walk or doing a workout DVD together.
You are awesome.
We need words of affirmation just like everyone else. Sometimes just knowing that others see how awesome we are can make our day.
How will you encourage the single moms in your life?